A working mother finds herself in a difficult position in today’s world. She is often accused of neglecting her children and her husband (in the case of a married mother). She is expected to break her back at work the whole day and literally take on the evening shift when everyone else retires home.

The poor woman is a victim of circumstances. A long time ago, her mother was not allowed to go to school because she would soon be given away in marriage. Exasperated by this act, she decided her girl child would not suffer the same fate. She stood up for her, educated her to ensure she had equal opportunities with her brothers. However, society would not be ready for her. Society still wants her to act like her mother who was groomed just for marriage.

A working mother earns a salary and therefore employs a home manager. The home manager has the whole day at her disposal and so she structures her work as she wishes. But she often quickly knocks off when the employer arrives to let her take care of her brats. Society supports her fully because the working mother should be aware that she has kids. Some mothers would still have to prepare meals for their husbands and serve them. Why? The husband cannot be served by a worker- he has a wife. It is of no consequence that both husband and wife just got home from work. The wife must know her place.

The working mother also has herself to blame. She has created unrealistic expectations. She has given the impression that she is super human but she is often too exhausted to live up to this ideal. She ends up full of resentment towards the people she loves.

I have often wondered after reading interviews of married celebrity women if indeed they were being truthful. Here’s a typical scenario;

Q: how do you balance things being a wife, a mother and a musician (a busy one at that)?

A: when I’m home I’m a wife. I cook for my husband and take care of the kids.

We are speaking of someone who is always engaged.I have scratched my head to figure out how they manage and if they are not misleading their followers. Your guess is as good as mine. It is draining. They need help. They are just telling us what we want to hear, leaving us at the mercy of our cruel society. If Queen B does it, who are you?

The home manager is in constant competition with madam. She has the impression that she can stage a coup and become the lady of the house. Madam is conscious of that and therefore does all in her power to prevent such a situation. That means work, work, work and more work.

My plea is for society to love and accept the modern mother. It is time!