The author reflects on the allure of self-love, which initially feels empowering but ultimately strains relationships. The shift towards self-centeredness erodes community spirit and transforms giving into transactional exchanges. Genuine connections suffer, replaced by superficial bonds. While self-love is valuable for personal growth, excessive focus on oneself can lead to toxic behavior.
Reflections on Marriage – Year 17
In two days my husband and I will celebrate our 17th wedding anniversary. How time flies! I’ll tell you why- because it doesn’t seem like 17 at all! And also, that’s because every year in marriage is literally a new year. It’s like navigating a meandering road 😉. I’ll try and break that down in…
Traveling with precious monsters-Part 2
After an awfully long wait, we’ve finally bought the tickets. We are going home on December 4th. Yippee! We are excited, we are sad …ehm..we don’t know how we feel. Our two year long friendships will be compromised but we have to go. But first, covid PCR test! While we have dinner, we announce our…
My brush with covid
Of all days, I felt particularly tired on my birthday. I understood, though. This had been a June like no other. Stress, left, right and center. Among my biggest worries was my mother having been admitted in hospital because of covid related ailments. That’s how they classify them🙄. I kept saying to myself, mother make…
Good men still exist
“Happy international men’s day guys,” read my message to the men in our watsapp group. My kind gesture went unnoticed. In fact, the most I could get was a “thanks but no thanks.” “Ke leboga eng o sa bua sepe jaana? Kana o kwadile ko blog? (Why should I thank you when you’ve not said…
Let me feel
3rd November 2020. Fresh tears stream down my cheeks. The lump in my throat, palpitations, chest exploding with pain. My husband hugs me tightly and whispers, “Is it…?” He knows the date. “Yes, I tried to avoid it..”, I stammer my response as I struggle to suppress the emotions welling up and ready to erupt….
But why?
Why the mouth that once kissed passionately Now curses and threatens Why the hand that once provided comfort That held you and gave you warmth That shielded you from imminent danger Now is the danger That carries the sword that finishes you off That chokes the life right out of you Why the chest where…
Are we failing our kids?
Miles and miles away from our country, in the city of Vienna, Austria, we meet a young man from Equatorial Guinea. We exchange pleasantries, my son more enthusiastic than the rest of us-as usual. To my son’s surprise, our fellow African brother has never heard of Botswana. Naturally, we explain that it borders South Africa…
My journey to default settings – Part I
Who would have thought? Ok, first things first. Let me introduce myself. My name is Onalenna. I am a big girl- I step on the ground and it trembles, eh…well..that’s what I’ve been told. I didn’t have any problem with my weight. In fact, I subscribed to the BBW (Big Beautiful Women). You would too…
We shall bounce back
Last week I was supposed to start a little job and earn a few extra bucks. I had a successful meeting on Monday where we laid out expectations and all. On Wednesday, when I was getting ready to go my phone 📱 rings. “Hello Ona! Apparently one of the guys we are working with is…
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